Love Song as Potential Stalker Warning
In a rare spout of frequency, I've been dreaming of you lately. Once the other night which was either the very first time (I don't think so) or the very first in a long time (more likely; I actually need to post the details of that dream in here), and last night / this morning, every time I went back to sleep You were right there in my dreams (I, in the best of times am notorious for hitting the snooze, not to mention that my clock has memory for 2 separate alarms; adding to that Thursday nights was one of the worst /longest / physically painful nights in recent history, so I needed every second of sleep).
The 1st and most significant one had to do with you & I moving into a place with a 3rd person, whom I feel like is your current roommate. We were in DC. It was all so non-extraordinary. A given. Fact. We had separate rooms. There was nothing implied in our manner that made me feel like we were physically or romantically involved, but when I awoke I was laughing because the the thought of that being a possible reality tickles me (in a good way). Twice I've briefly fantasized about moving into the place you live. Even when we were closer, I'd doubt you would've let that happen. But what do I know? Actually, knowing you, you probably wouldn't have had a problem with it, but would've certainly took me aside and had a talk. Nothing wrong with that.
Funny, though. When you broke things off with me, you waited for me to start the conversation. I only really gave that detail much thought recently. I feel you used the pretense of me having wanted to talk to you about stuff weeks before to move into that conversation instead of just coming out and saying what you were going to say anyway, despite what I had started to notice a few weeks prior. You're an odd girl sometimes, and as such it often takes me a little while to catch up. By then it's usually too late to properly defend a postition or properly stick up for myself.
Anyway, the other two dream instances we were firmly involved in each other's lives and I had the feeling moreso romantically though soon after waking up I lost any pertinent details of either dream. The feeling remained, but of course that could so easily be just wishful thinking during the day filtering into wish fulfillment dreaming at night.
It's curious. I often say or think I'd take you back in a second, but for the time being I've given up on asking you out and I'm still being very careful how I approach you at work. Perhaps this is my ultimate tragic flaw: too careful. Too considerate of others and not enough of myself. There's ways to be more considerate of others without losing grip of what I want. I know I am on a tether. One I've never (or, optimistically I can say "yet") outgrown. I'm making my own place but still feel on the fringe. I feel worthy of you emotionally, but completely unworthy in any other regard. Romantically I'm ok, though the physicality wasn't anywhere near where I'd like it to be (for my part). Again, I wanted to treat you in ways you wouldn't be able to resist. I wanted my lavish attention to succeed in freeing us both to send each other through the roof.
Too many books. Too many movies. Living too much inside my head and so far I've translated all that poorly into daily life. But the day I give up hope is the day I stop breathing, one way or another. Life isn't worth it if lived unloved.
The tether must be broken. I have to free myself, even more. I must transcend. I know this guarantees me nothing with you. You don't need what I need. You don't need what I wished you even wanted from me. And though you are foremost in my mind (and heart) right now I know all this talk of romanticism and transcendence, if ever achieved, doesn't even remotely mean that it will some how change you into someone who actively wants me. I of course would like that to be the case, but I fully realize -- and always have -- no matter what changes within me occur, they won't necessarily affect you one bit.
But because right now you are the best girl all my roads lead to you. All the girls I meet and openly flirt with or openly feel attractive pull toward mean next to nothing but adding a bit of spark to my day. Freeing myself a little more. It all comes into perspective when I think of how you can do the same thing. How you've certainly kept moving forward and dated, kissed & loved (physically) someone in the time since me. Hell, it's been 4 months. I the only guy I know that isn't a total freak that goes that amount of time and longer without kissing or sleeping with someone. I guess I am a freak.
Really, the main reason I don't ask you out is my poor situation outside of work. I don't go out much currently, can't really afford it and I don't want to get back into the habit of going out several times a week and not really doing the things I need to be doing to keep myself moving forward. That social fix is always a lure, especially for someone as alone as I am most of the time. But solitary may help strengthen me. I've never noticed that it did before, but times are always potential for change. I just have to keep grinding, digging deeper, making more sacrifices and see the big picture.
And amidst all of that somehow still manage to free myself.
It's a very interesting event how you've changed me in 3 short months and within that how I am still very much the same. Why is this still who I am?
Where went my ability to adapt and become what was needed?
The 1st and most significant one had to do with you & I moving into a place with a 3rd person, whom I feel like is your current roommate. We were in DC. It was all so non-extraordinary. A given. Fact. We had separate rooms. There was nothing implied in our manner that made me feel like we were physically or romantically involved, but when I awoke I was laughing because the the thought of that being a possible reality tickles me (in a good way). Twice I've briefly fantasized about moving into the place you live. Even when we were closer, I'd doubt you would've let that happen. But what do I know? Actually, knowing you, you probably wouldn't have had a problem with it, but would've certainly took me aside and had a talk. Nothing wrong with that.
Funny, though. When you broke things off with me, you waited for me to start the conversation. I only really gave that detail much thought recently. I feel you used the pretense of me having wanted to talk to you about stuff weeks before to move into that conversation instead of just coming out and saying what you were going to say anyway, despite what I had started to notice a few weeks prior. You're an odd girl sometimes, and as such it often takes me a little while to catch up. By then it's usually too late to properly defend a postition or properly stick up for myself.
Anyway, the other two dream instances we were firmly involved in each other's lives and I had the feeling moreso romantically though soon after waking up I lost any pertinent details of either dream. The feeling remained, but of course that could so easily be just wishful thinking during the day filtering into wish fulfillment dreaming at night.
It's curious. I often say or think I'd take you back in a second, but for the time being I've given up on asking you out and I'm still being very careful how I approach you at work. Perhaps this is my ultimate tragic flaw: too careful. Too considerate of others and not enough of myself. There's ways to be more considerate of others without losing grip of what I want. I know I am on a tether. One I've never (or, optimistically I can say "yet") outgrown. I'm making my own place but still feel on the fringe. I feel worthy of you emotionally, but completely unworthy in any other regard. Romantically I'm ok, though the physicality wasn't anywhere near where I'd like it to be (for my part). Again, I wanted to treat you in ways you wouldn't be able to resist. I wanted my lavish attention to succeed in freeing us both to send each other through the roof.
Too many books. Too many movies. Living too much inside my head and so far I've translated all that poorly into daily life. But the day I give up hope is the day I stop breathing, one way or another. Life isn't worth it if lived unloved.
The tether must be broken. I have to free myself, even more. I must transcend. I know this guarantees me nothing with you. You don't need what I need. You don't need what I wished you even wanted from me. And though you are foremost in my mind (and heart) right now I know all this talk of romanticism and transcendence, if ever achieved, doesn't even remotely mean that it will some how change you into someone who actively wants me. I of course would like that to be the case, but I fully realize -- and always have -- no matter what changes within me occur, they won't necessarily affect you one bit.
But because right now you are the best girl all my roads lead to you. All the girls I meet and openly flirt with or openly feel attractive pull toward mean next to nothing but adding a bit of spark to my day. Freeing myself a little more. It all comes into perspective when I think of how you can do the same thing. How you've certainly kept moving forward and dated, kissed & loved (physically) someone in the time since me. Hell, it's been 4 months. I the only guy I know that isn't a total freak that goes that amount of time and longer without kissing or sleeping with someone. I guess I am a freak.
Really, the main reason I don't ask you out is my poor situation outside of work. I don't go out much currently, can't really afford it and I don't want to get back into the habit of going out several times a week and not really doing the things I need to be doing to keep myself moving forward. That social fix is always a lure, especially for someone as alone as I am most of the time. But solitary may help strengthen me. I've never noticed that it did before, but times are always potential for change. I just have to keep grinding, digging deeper, making more sacrifices and see the big picture.
And amidst all of that somehow still manage to free myself.
It's a very interesting event how you've changed me in 3 short months and within that how I am still very much the same. Why is this still who I am?
Where went my ability to adapt and become what was needed?